Love in the Home
*A marriage is made up of two forgiving people;
that is to say, two imperfect people.
*The biggest mistake is trying to change the one you love.
1 John 4:7-8 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is
of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows
God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”
1. All the silver and gold in the world does not have the
value of the permanent love of a husband or wife.
a. Give your love to him/her who is worthy of
your appreciation and affection, because your
love is a precious gift from God.
b. Psalms 68:13 “Though you lie down among
the sheepfolds, you will be like the wings of
a dove covered with silver, and her feathers with yellow gold.”
2. Allow your spouse to know your fidelity and be able to trust in you.
a. Trust is the key for a happy and united love.
b. Cultivate trust and you will cultivate a life of a refreshing love.
Proverbs 31:11 “The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.”
FOR THE YOUNG COUPLES: When you are jealous of one another and accusing of being unfaithful, it’s because there is something wrong in the heart of that person. That can lead you to sin, saying “Well he/she did it, so I’m going to do it too.”
3. Being Kind- Kindness establishes love. Act in a kind way that seeks the well being of the other person.
a. Demonstrate your love putting your spouse before yourself. You will find a reward farther than your
imagination.
A person that is always angry, in gossip or yelling, is a sign of loving themselves too much instead of
the other person.
i. Romans 12:9-10 “Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be kindly
affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;”
ii. The wife, just like the husband, needs to discuss and communicate before
making a decision.
4. Of One Mind.
A. Seek harmony in your relationship with your spouse.
Women tend to be the ones who argue more. I have noticed that almost in every marriage when the wife is just talking and talking, the husband gets tired and leaves. Women more often make fast decisions without thinking and based off their emotions. When a wife tells her husband to leave because she just made an emotional decision, the husband needs to help his wife to get control of herself. There are husbands that lack understanding and do what the wife says when it was an emotional decision. Also, if the wife keeps telling her husband to leave, eventually the husband will leave-so be careful what you speak. (If the husband always does what the women says based on emotional decisions, there will be problems the majority of the time.)
B. Talk about your differences until you reach an agreement. Find your differences and come to a conclusion. Tolerate one another. Compromise on things that please God; compromising on watching pornography is not a decision that will please God.
Love in the Home
C. Live with your spouse lovingly and peacefully
I was at a restaurant and I noticed the waitress being so loving to everyone. I asked her if she treated
her husband the same way, and she answered, “No, I hate him.”
What do you gain loving the whole world and not being able to love your spouse? Love
your spouse. Remember that you are married to man or women of God and you have to treat them well.
2 Corinthians 13:11 “Finally, brethren, farewell. Become complete. Be of good
comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with
you.”
* A marriage is made up of two forgiving people; that is to say, two imperfect people.
*The biggest mistake is trying to change the one you love.
7 Keys to a Marriage
1. Fidelity
2. Patience
3. Forgiving one another-Know how to forgive
4. Service-I will anticipate the need (spiritual, emotional, physical and material) and will do all I
can to provide. (When I go to the store, I buy a lot of thing because I’m thinking of what we will
need at our home and what my wife will need.)
5. Respect- I will not speak in any way that will disrespect my spouse. (There times a spouse only
speaks negative of their companion.)
6. Kind-Be kind to one another as when you were dating.
7. Celebration-I will appreciate the gifts and abilities of my spouse and I will celebrate them
personally and publically. (Appreciate the man/woman God gave you.)
Note: *Fix the situation in which you’re in. DON’T RUN AWAY from your situation.
That will only make your problem more complicated.
Bishop David Duran
Marriage Teaching
Saturday, February 14, 2009